The Language of Attachment
Attachment theory is best known in reference to studies that demonstrated the fundamental need for young children to feel safe and secure in their bonds with parents and caregivers. It turns out that the same needs and longings for safety and security exist in older children and adults. In fact, it is the thwarting of these needs that is at the heart of the vast majority of relationship distress.
Our attachment-related concerns can be summarised in two questions, each reflecting a different attachment insecurity:
Will you be there for me if I need you?
Am I enough for you?